Separation anxiety can be tough on little ones and parents alike! Developing a routine and sticking to it is the best way to help your little one at drop-off, build confidence, and foster independence. Here are some tips for easing those transition times:
Create a goodbye ritual
- Create a goodbye ritual
- Come up with a fun or silly goodbye ritual that you can do quickly at each drop-off
- Ideas: silly dances into the classroom, high-fives at the door, or triple kisses at the cubbies
- Give your child your full attention during the goodbye ritual and leave immediately after (even if they react- trust that they are in good hands and will be comforted)
- Be consistent
- Maintain the same ritual as much as possible to help prepare your child for the day and ease the heartache
- Do not return for “little visits” as these can increase and extend the anxiety (even though they are well-intentioned)
- Keep your promise
- Explain to your child when they will see you next
- Be specific in words your little one understands like “after naptime”, “before dinnertime”, or “in two sleeps”
- This builds trust and helps your little one better understand the plan
- Provide encouragement that you believe in your little one and their independence!
There are several things that can make drop-off more challenging for your little one including illness, being sleepy or hungry, and many other things. However, maintaining your drop-off routine can help ease anxiety and provide comfort. As always, if you have any questions or concerns about easing separation anxiety, please consult your pediatrician. Here is a link with some additional information:
